I am about to write about something I am deeply unfamiliar with. And you might wonder, why write about something you don’t know much about? Well, I’ve realized that sometimes, putting your thoughts out there—unpolished, raw, and vulnerable—can actually help in understanding them better. So, this is me thinking aloud, sharing some reflections from the past few weeks. Maybe there will be a Part 2, maybe even a Part 3. For now, here’s where I stand on love, faith, and spirituality—three things that, interestingly, I don’t have strong opinions on, yet somehow, they’ve been occupying my mind.
On Love – When You’re Looking Too Hard, You Rarely Find It
Someone once told me that love, faith, and spirituality require belief systems that are irrational in nature. That there need not always be logic behind them because sometimes, rationality kills the beauty of things. And I found this thought fascinating—because I am someone who has always relied on logic. I like finding patterns, making sense of things, and understanding the “why” behind everything. But love, as I’m beginning to see, doesn’t always fit into logical constructs.
One thought that really struck me about love is that when you’re looking for it too actively, it rarely finds you. It’s almost paradoxical—the more you chase it, the harder it becomes to grasp. But when you’re simply living your life, love often sneaks up on you. And in retrospect, that’s exactly how I’ve felt about love in my own life. The moments I realized I was in love were never when I was actively looking for it. Instead, they were moments that caught me off guard, when love happened before I even recognized it.
Maybe love, at its core, is more about just being there than about searching. Maybe it’s about allowing yourself to be in a space where love can naturally exist, rather than forcing it into a predefined frame.
Another thing I’ve been thinking about—why is love usually limited to just one person? Or why is it often seen as something that happens only once? Why isn’t love infinite, available for multiple people in different ways? We already love many people at once—our parents, our friends, our mentors—so why is romantic love framed as something exclusive, something that can only belong to one person at a time? Maybe it’s because we’ve been conditioned to see love as something finite, where exclusivity defines its depth. But what if love, by its very nature, is abundant? What if love isn’t about possession, but about shared experiences, about different connections at different times in life?
On Faith – Religion as the Biggest Social Enterprise?
Faith is something I’ve been reflecting on a lot lately. Growing up, religion wasn’t a huge part of my life. My mother was religious, my father—less so. I never grew up with strict religious customs. In fact, when I think of religion in my childhood, my mind goes to things like good food, meeting people / relatives, and movie releases that coincided with festivals. And I was comfortable with that version of religion.
But being in London, I’ve seen people of my generation practice their religion more actively, and it’s made me question: What role has faith played in my life?
I looked up the definition of religion, and one line stood out—Religion is a way of justifying attitudes, beliefs, and practices. It made me wonder, is religion, at its essence, a set of values we choose to live by? And if that’s the case, is religion the biggest social enterprise in the world? Because, if you think about it, religion does many of the things that social enterprises aim to do—it builds communities, instills values, empowers people, and provides a sense of grounding.
A friend of mine once remarked that religion is also a poor man’s therapy—it offers comfort, belonging, and a framework to make sense of the world. Every religion is, in a way, a cult. The real question is: What is the cult you choose to sign up for?
And then, I asked myself—if I don’t believe in God, does that automatically mean I don’t believe in religion? Because while I may not associate myself with a particular faith, I do have a set of beliefs and values that I live by. So, am I religious? Or am I not?
On Spirituality – Connecting Beyond Yourself
Spirituality is another thing I don’t have a clear stance on. What does it mean to be spiritual? Is it about manifesting things? Observing energies? Wishing for something and believing it will come true? Or is it about connecting with something larger than yourself?
The way I see it, spirituality, at its core, is about connecting with a self that is greater than your immediate self. And if that’s the case, then maybe many of the things I do—my work, my reflections, the way I approach life—have an element of spirituality to them.
So, does that make me spiritual? Or am I not? I don’t know. But it’s a question that has been on my mind.
One thing that I’ve been thinking about is how adversity often shapes people’s faith. I’ve noticed a pattern—when people go through tough times, they often turn to religion or faith as a source of strength. It’s almost like an act of surrender, a way of finding solace in something greater than oneself. Religion, in many ways, is like a warm hug—it catches you when you need it the most.
I started writing this blog unsure of where it would go. And I am ending it still unsure of many things. But maybe that’s okay. Maybe the whole point of exploring love, faith, and spirituality is not to arrive at definitive answers, but to sit with the questions.
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